Author: tearj3rker
Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2011 8:37 pm
| exorphin wrote: |
| I am having difficulty stopping my alcohol use, mainly because I tend to use it as a sort of "social lubricant"/ as a way to feel like I fit in and feel socially accepted. I was wondering if anyone else has struggled (or is struggling) with this issue; and, if so, how they deal with it? |
Hey Exorphin.
This is like, totally normal. Have you ever gone to a party as a non-drinker, and felt the awkwardness early in the evening before people have been drinking. Then after everyone’s had a few drinks, people loosen up and lose their social anxiety? Everybody is awkward, and has a degree of social anxiety. Most people imo are inherently nervous when meeting new people, no matter the setting. That’s why they drink.
As a teenager, heroin gave me the feeling I could talk to anyone. I felt cool and collected, could talk to women, and thought I was a rock star. I used heroin for that! How messed up?
Don’t beat yourself up over 2 glasses of wine. That’s a phenomenal effort for someone who’s trying to cut down or stop their drinking. Don’t dwell negatively on the Abstinence Or Die stuff. You’ll only beat yourself up over your mistakes, when obviously your handle of your addictions has improved heaps. 2 drinks on Saturday? That’s less than your so called normal non-addict person! You’re kicking arse imo. I hope your counsellor acknowledges this.
Good luck!
