Author: laddertipper
Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 12:49 pm
| Diary of a Quitter wrote: |
| Ugh, ladder, that sounds awful. I can see why you’d have a really hard time just letting that go – that kind of ongoing negativity that you can’t really escape…and when it effects your child, well – I know that get’s the mama bear instinct activated.
Shunning. That sounds so old-school. I read an essay once by this woman who got pregnant as a teen and was sent off to have the baby and give it up for adoption. Then her whole community shunned her. It gives me the chills to think how awful people can be to one another, especially in the name of religion. At least you know why she’s acting so weird now, though I’m sure it doesn’t make it feel any better. I hope it gets easier with time and that your daughter will be able to see that this isn’t about her. I wish I had something better to say, but I don’t. You really seem like the kind of person who will rise above this lady and her nonsense and take the high road though. Your neighbor obviously isn’t strong enough to stand up to peer pressure (from her church) and treat people decently…but you know you are. I bet it really chaps her hide that her bullsh*t isn’t causing you to reconsider joining her church. (Just think of the fun you could have dishing out this treatment to others in the future! Bleck!) Just keep on being your awesome self and life will take care of her in the end. I hope you have a lovely weekend! |
It IS a shock to see how people can act in the name of religion, I grew up in the San Francisco area and then Los Angeles. This is quite different from either or those places, lol. I don’t, in any way, buy into this being religiously justified. That’s a bunch of bull! If I talk myself through it, I realize that I don’t actually want to be friends with these people anyway, let alone a member of their ‘church’. This chick was all about appearances, and I realize now there just wasn’t much good stuff beneath that pretty surface. I’m still very kind to her child, because she is a child, after all and did not choose this stuff.
Yup, it does chap this woman’s hide that this doesn’t change my mind. I guess the point was to make me feel very left out, but then I realized that I wanted to be left out of anything like that! I’ve met some other people here who have been shunned, even by their own flesh and blood, so this isn’t unique to me. I know this chick is pretty mad at me. They are very pressured to bring people in, and I think she was over confident that she had me in the bag. In general, they are under a tremendous amount of pressure, so I do have a lot of sympathy for them. It must really suck to have to spy on me everyday and time dropping off/picking up her kid, going to the grocery store, figuring out where to sit at school functions, etc. to avoid me. Think of all that effort! It’s so stupid…..
Thanks so much for your kind words, DOAQ!! You always say something very helpful. And reading that was quite helpful to me. Have a great weekend too!! 
laddertipper
