Author: stephent
Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 12:06 pm
See if he is willing to take at least three months sober off of everything but prescribed meds (Suboxone is prescribed). It sounds like he needs to make some pretty serious decisions. He needs to face consequences to be honest. I don’t know how you feel about drinking, but it very likely is not a good decision, especially if he used coke regularly. I made a pledge to myself that I wouldn’t even have a single beer for at least a year. That year ends in 5 days. I am not totally opposed to seeing if I can have a few beers every once and awhile, but now is not the time for me to do so. So I am going to make another pledge to myself.
I will say that for many, it appears that making a promise to yourself doesn’t seem like enough. It seems to be okay FOR ME. When I first stopped using, it took me at least three months to really start seeing the benefits. I knew I didn’t want to use, but I sure didn’t feel that great.
Anyways, how do you and him feel about rehab? An inpatient or outpatient program. The drug testing will be stronger and he will have some accountability? Its good to get off of the opiates, but sounds like its time to take some more steps forward for him. You need to make some decisions if he is unwilling to do so. I see you are willing to leave him, that might be an option. However, I (keyword I) think it would be best for him to go to a program. Why uproot yourself?
Anyways, I would make a contract with very specific consequences. Make him sign it.
