Author: meltalk
Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2011 11:42 am
I totally agree with Breezy here. You would be helping your brother and also getting this out of the closet for yourself. You said your not sure if you could say No to this day if it were offered. I believe your still not completely free from this addiction either. I was once a heavy cocaine and crack user and I can tell you I WOULD RUN!!!!! if I even knew it was anywhere around me.
I believe this is something you and your family can use to really make some huge step in recovery with honesty. You know if your honest you may find out someone else is holding on to some "serect" to "PROTECT THE FAMILY". I think honest,coming out is the best thing you could do for your family. I would tell my mom first and as a family I would tell my brother. Your little sister of course does not need to know but if she does find out that does not mean she would not still look up to you. It would show her that people make bad chocies and they can overcome them.
I totally understand about the protect the family name but God knows I was the black sheep of the family. I have learned that my family looks up to me I’ve always been honest and straight up with them.They know I can be trusted.No bullshit when it comes to me I have made horrible decisions in my life but I never forgot the things my parents thought me.
Your brother will respect you for loving him enough that you can be striaght up with him and then it is up to him to want to change.You did it alone and you know how he feels and you can make some HUGE diffence to him right now.
I would not want you to have some regret by not being true to yourself and your brother.
Praying for you and your family. You know in your heart what you need to do and I just say do what feels RIGHT!!! Only you know your family this is IMO.
