Author: hatmaker510
Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 6:04 am
Hi Fordanthaman and welcome. It sounds like you’re in a bit of a tough spot right now and I’m sorry for that. On top of your BF having an addiction problem, it sounds like there is some back talk going on which may be confusing things even worse.
One of the things I want to say is this: This friend who is telling you "John" is lying to you, did he used to use drugs with "John"? I had this thought while reading your post…that often the person left behind who doesn’t get in suboxone treatment and is left using doesn’t like to see the other person change. Often they will do anything to get that person who’s in recovery back to using. I’m saying this because right now you’re getting two different stories and it’s possible that this "friend" has a motive to be less than truthful. I just wanted to point that out.
As for John nodding off, it is possible that he’s still taking suboxone but is on too high a dose and it’s making him too sleepy. That can and does happen – it’s not that unusual.
I think it’s terrific that you want to learn about addiction. John is very lucky to have you, someone who is willing to take the time to get educated about addiction. There is a thread on this forum under the "Why the Anger" category that is called, "What is Addiction". It’s a great thread and has a couple of articles attached about the effects of addiction on the brain. I would highly suggest you read that thread.
As for him going off the suboxone, one cannot force an addict into recovery. If it were me, I’d somehow need to find a way to get to the bottom of things with John. Does he even WANT to stop using? If he does, then suboxone could help him greatly while he learns to live his life without popping a pill every 2 minutes.
There are many things going on right now with you and John, including other people telling you he’s lying to you and you not knowing what the truth is. If he’s going to stay with you, maybe this is your opportunity to sit him down and set some boundaries with regard to him opening up to you and telling you everything.
These are just some of the thoughts I had when reading your post. I don’t know if any of this is helpful or not. Please ask as many questions as you have. It’s what we’re here for. Hang in there and please do keep us updated on how YOU and he are doing.
