Author: Fordanthaman
Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 7:48 pm
Hello hatmaker510 and thank you!
O.k., the friend is truly a friend. Not involved in drug use, and as far as I know, never has been. He is the person that made John’s family aware of the problem because he was at wit’s end with John and feared that he was on a fast track to death.
One of the biggest problems with John is, he has always been the golden boy in everyone’s eyes. He started taking pain killers with an old girlfriend, while living in a different state than any of his life-long friends or family. His job takes him to different states, so he has easily kept this hidden, or so he thought. (His friend says he’s known for years because of the small town talk in their hometown, where John would go between jobs and live for a month or so. It wasn’t until this past Feb. that the friend had seen enough and basically caused the intervention.) He is tremendously embarrassed that he has this problem & hates that his mother and father are now aware. It isn’t a subject that he easliy discusses with me, or anyone for that matter.
He has a Dr. appointment tomorrow & I know that his father plans to go with him. Hopefully his infulence will keep him on track.
At this point, I have decided to put my trust in him. He is very aware of my feelings and knows that I will support him as long as he is trying, however I will not enable him and he knows that too. I told him that if I have a conversation with his family/friends about him, I will be honest and tell him. I’m not sure it’s possible for everyone to "not talk", as we’re all worried and rely on each other to keep that watchful eye, so to speak.
Yes, I understand that John is the only one who can help John. Some of his family members are still struggling with accepting the hard truth – your brother/son is an addict. I believe that that makes John feel even worse and causes him to want to run away, unable to look at the disappointment/worry on their faces.
I willl continue to read the wonderful information here – it has been a god-send. And again, thank you for your time and words of encouragement.
